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Life Lessons on the Subway07 / 13 / 2017

Disclaimer: I realize that the word “crazy” can be triggering for some people. For the purposes of this blog post, I’m using the word “crazy” to describe those who are combative and/or belligerent beyond what’s expected from the average person. It may or may not be connected to any mental health diagnosis.

 

Don’t engage with crazy.

If you’ve ever taken the NYC subway, you probably learned that rule very quickly. It’s the reason why stoic faces have become an integral part of the NYC landscape. It took an encounter with a weirdo on the subway to drive home this principle, since I clearly wasn’t catching on quickly enough in my personal life. So let me tell you my subway story first…

I got the train one evening, looked around, and made a half a second of eye contact with everyone who was looking at me.…Read More

The Power of the Pole04 / 18 / 2017

Cindy: 😄 “I’m shooting my music video at a pole studio!” Relative: 😖 “Why do you have to do that? I don’t like that!” Cindy: 😂 “Why not?” Relative: 😫 “It’s whorish.”

 

Okay.. Soooooo.. I am well aware of the reputation pole dancing has. So why in the world would I put that in my first music video?

 

So glad you asked. 😄 Allow me to tell you about my pole journey…

 

I was talking to my coach Jo-Ná one crisp fall day, stressing out about whatever was going on in my life, and she stopped me immediately. “Make a list of all the fun stuff you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t gotten around to. Over the next few weeks, you’re going to do them!”

 

“Well… I want to go to the museum..…Read More

“Irresistible Fraud”04 / 15 / 2017

My debut single, “Irresistible Me” isn’t just a song to me. It’s self-love. It’s empowerment. Unfortunately, for many years it was also totally fraudulent. Not intentionally so, but fraudulent nonetheless..

The story of “Irresistible Me” starts in 2012… I was really, really into this guy. We talked almost every day for months. He complimented me often, but told me that he was not interested in a romantic relationship. He just wanted to be my friend.

What do single people do with attractive, friendly, awesome members of the opposite sex? They date them. So surely, there was something wrong with me if he didn’t want to date me, right?

Oh nooooo! Of course not! 😅 I had lots of great qualities! I could even list like 5 of them!…

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The Real Holdup To My Single Release03 / 25 / 2017

March 22nd 2017.. My debut single was sitting on my computer. Album art done. Music video complete. But I couldn’t do a damn thing with it. It was in legal limbo and I had been trying to resolve that for the past year.   It’s been an uphill battle trying to get this music out! Financial issues, music video challenges, an unresolved contract.. Every time I looked up, it was something else… I felt like I was at the mercy of all these situations that were beyond my control!   Now the contract challenge is a very interesting story, but that’s actually not what I’m sharing today. I want to tell you about the real holdup to the release of my music. I just discovered that it had nothing to do with waiting for other people.…Read More

Slowing Down (Part 2)11 / 04 / 2016

“You’re not making progress fast enough.”

 

Of all the anonymous comments I got when I surveying my mailing list this year, that comment stung the most. It stood out over and above all of the wonderful, positive feedback I received. Why was I so triggered by it? Because it reflected my own frustration that I wasn’t accomplishing my goals quickly enough.

 

My dream of being a professional singer started when I was 12. In pursuit of this dream, I studied piano, learned how to write songs, performed whenever I had the chance and recorded music with different aspiring producers in countless basement studios. After moving to NC to further my musical education, I continued on this path, squeezing in time for my personal music while getting my degrees and working..…Read More