Last month I started posting pictures from my latest photo shoot. Within a week, I’d heard at least 5 comparisons to the singer Sade. Although it was unintentional, I could totally see it!
Soon after that, I started seeing Sade’s picture everywhere on social media. I figured it deserved some more exploration.
I’ve had an interesting relationship with Sade. Her “Stronger Than Pride” album stayed on repeat in my house during my childhood. When my Mom loves an album, trust me, you’ll know. So my first response to Sade’s music was generally, “Ugh! Mooooom, do you have to play it agaiiiiin?” 🙄
It was about 15-20 years later when I actually started to appreciate Sade. The vibrant rhythms, poignant lyrics and the smooth softness of her voice… It is really beautiful music when you listen without “Ugh!…Read More
Confession: I’ve never done the “seeing multiple people at the same time and seeing what happens” thing. With the exception of a handful of dates than never went anywhere, I’ve mostly been dating like a middle schooler.. “I like you, you like me, now we go together.” 😂
In the past, as soon as I was interested in a man, he had my full undivided attention. 🥰 I was completely loyal and monogamous without any commitment on his part.
The problem was that it created an unhealthy attachment to the outcome. I’d approach every interaction with an attractive man with the attitude of “I really hope this works out” instead of “let’s just see what happens”. It created a feeling of anxiety while I waited to be “chosen” or “found”.…Read More
Dear “you’re not enough”/”you’re too much” voices,
You’ve tortured me for the past 34 years.
And I’ve allowed it.
🥀I’ve allowed you to steal my joy.
🥀I’ve allowed you to wake me up in the middle of the night harassing me.
🥀I’ve allowed you to rob me of my self-care.
🥀I’ve allowed you to shut down my intuition.
🥀I’ve allowed you to translate every “no”, rejection and criticism into proof of my unworthiness.
🥀I’ve allowed you to keep me in a state of anxiety whenever faced with possible rejection.
🥀I’ve allowed you to keep me stuck in a cycle of attracting and entertaining unavailable men.
🥀I’ve allowed you to keep my boundaries weak.
🥀I’ve allowed you to rob me of the ability to enjoy my talent.…
In 2019, my biggest goal is to have as much FUN as I can.
That probably sounds a little trite.. Let me explain..
When I imagined my life and career after college, it was supposed to go like this:
So imagine what it feels like to stare 35 in the face (Yes, honey!…Read More