Discovering Relentless Self Love03 / 25 / 2016

“You can’t love anyone else until you learn to love yourself!”

Yea, yea, yeaaaa..  If I had a dollar for every time I heard that, I’d be rich…

I tried it, though. I really did! I told myself I was beautiful. I made a list of all the things I loved about myself. I started dating myself, taking occasional trips to the Metropolitan Museum of Art, to Carnegie Hall, and to lunch at my favorite Thai restaurant.

So why was every intuitive person I ran into STILL telling me that I had worthiness issues and I needed to love myself more? What the hell?!? I was TRYING! What else was I supposed to do?!?

The interesting thing about worthiness issues is that they run pretty deeply.…

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Losing My Religion03 / 11 / 2016

A lot of people have been curious about why I made the switch from religion to spirituality.. So I’m just going to spell it out right here so there’s no confusion or assumptions. This is a loooong story, but I’m going to try to condense it as much as possible and hit the highlights of this 13 year journey.. Alright.. here we go!

2003 – I took a biblical literature class in college, thinking it would help me read my bible more. In that class, I learned about the history of the Bible. I learned that some of the books of the Old Testament were stitched together from multiple writers. I learned about how the bible was codified and about the councils that came together to agree upon official Christian doctrine.…

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The Anatomy of a Troll02 / 11 / 2016

What’s the most hateful place in the world? The comments section.

It’s where all the trolls come out to play, spewing their vitriol and putting their personal bitterness on display.

By the third disrespectful comment on any given post, I have to close the page. I had to stop reading the comments on one of my own YouTube videos because they were so hateful. I’m a very sensitive person, and that stuff really bothers me. Even when the hatred is not directed towards me, I feel it deeply.

So imagine my horror when someone I knew posted an inflammatory comment toward my beloved business coach, Jo-Na. Jo-Na had just posted in her Facebook group (a thriving community centered around empowering artists) about an exciting project she was working on.…

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An Unconventional Path to Healing01 / 29 / 2016

I’ve been pretty silent for over a month. Mostly because I’ve struggled with my health a lot lately. In December I was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis (UC), an autoimmune disease in which the immune system attacks the cells in the large intestine (colon) and causes inflammation. During a flare up, the symptoms are kinda like a bad stomach virus… Horrible stomach cramps, nausea, vomiting, and every other gross thing that comes along with stomach issues – Only instead of lasting a couple of days, it’s more like 3-4 weeks. You would think I was pregnant or bulimic the way I’ve been throwing up (I’m not). Let me tell you.. It SUCKS.

I’m not a fan of covering up the symptoms of disease with medicine that causes worse side effects.…

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Dating and “God’s Will”11 / 06 / 2015

I always say “Be careful what you believe because whatever you believe is true.” Our beliefs shape our life, more than we realize.

Growing up in church and spending most of my 20s in North Carolina (in the Bible Belt), my concept of relationships was very much shaped by fundamentalist Christian doctrine. Sunday sermons, bible studies, young adult services, and singles ministry conferences were supplemented with books like “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris and “When God Writes Your Love Story” by Eric and Leslie Ludy (all known for their conservative approach). I believed that God was going to bless me with a husband whenever He knew I was ready. Since God is sovereign, and I’m not, I had no say in the timing or the process.…

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